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Wednesday, October 31, 2012

Happy Halloween!

My sweet baby boy is 4 weeks old today!  And, of course, it's his first Halloween! Although I'm sad to say we haven't really done anything today.  I dressed him up in a cute little outfit his aunt bought him, and a sweet Halloween bib his Mimi bought him, and I took pictures, but that's about it.  We are just too tired to go out, which I think is understandable.  :)  I cannot believe that my beautiful little baby will be a month old on Saturday.  Time is already flying by! It makes me a little sad.  I am trying my best, though, to enjoy every single moment I have with him.

That being said, I am having a hard time getting anything done here around the house.  All day I am pulled away from things I am trying to do so that I can either feed, burp, change,  or soothe N., and it is a little frustrating.  I am so glad that I am able to stay home and take care of him, but it's hard not being able to do much else.  Thankfully, my mom has agreed to come over one day a week to help me watch him so that I can get the cleaning and other tasks that need to be done accomplished.  I am so glad!! That will help SOOOO much! Plus,  I need some adult conversation every now and then, haha.

I am really looking forward to the day when I can just go someplace by myself for maybe an hour or so.  You know, like grocery shopping by myself, or just going to a store to browse by myself.  Every mom has told me this, and I never understood it until now.  I think everyone needs alone time, and I haven't gotten that in a pretty long time.  As an only child, alone time is something I'm used to having, so this is a big adjustment.  You really end up losing all of your selfishness when you become a mother.

I feel so blessed, though, that God let us have our baby boy.  We didn't have to hardly try at all to get pregnant, and I had a pretty easy pregnancy.  (The birth wasn't fun, as you've read before, but oh well.)  I had no idea what to expect.  I actually thought that parenthood would be much harder than I am finding it to be.  It's definitely challenging, but more than that, it is rewarding.  Don't get me wrong, it's not an easy job.  I just had it in my mind that it would be a nearly impossible job, which it's not.  That's why we waited so long to have a baby in the first place.  For the past 6 years, the thought of parenthood was just way too scary to us.  In fact, we weren't sure that we wanted to have a child at all.  But, wow, am I glad we did! This is an experience that is so amazing and wonderful, and I feel so sorry for those people that haven't gotten to experience it. 

Okay, enough talking about being a parent.  Soon, I'm hoping to post more about stuff I enjoy doing, like books I've read and crafts I've completed and stuff like that.  Right now, though, I obviously haven't had time to do that.  I'm also in a program called BzzAgent, where I get to try products out for free, and I plan on writing about that, too.  I know my time will always be limited, but I'm hoping I get to do some of those things soon.  :)
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Sunday, October 28, 2012

So Tired, But Happy

Things are still getting regular around here.  Including my baby boy, apparently.  Last night I was changing N.'s diaper, and I apparently wasn't fast enough.  He has already peed on me a couple of times, but this time, it was POOP! It surprised me so much that I screamed, and I think I scared him. :/  But it was okay; my husband came running, and, after laughing at the sight of me, helped me clean N. up and then rocked him while I went and took my second shower of the day. 

Needless to say, I'm pretty tired.  But, regardless of having all sorts of bodily functions to clean up at any given time, I am so happy.  I had no idea parenthood would be so rewarding, and we have only just begun. 

We went to church today for the first time since N. was born, and it was wonderful! I was able to play in the worship set this morning, and it was so enjoyable.  I had forgotten just how much I missed it! I feel so blessed that God gave me musical talent! And I feel blessed that He has helped me to develop it.  I really didn't know how to play when I started, but after lots of practice, I feel much more confident, and I actually have knowledge of notes and chords and even chord inversions. :)

This is a pretty short post, but thankfully, nothing really TOO crazy has happened this week.  We are just still working on keeping up a routine and I am working on trying to get more rest, instead of trying to tackle a million projects at once.  I will post more soon!
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Tuesday, October 23, 2012

Getting Into a Routine

I am so happy to say that my son, N., and I have finally gotten into a routine.  We have had lots of company over the past few weeks, and I have enjoyed visiting with everyone, but because of that, we have been unable to establish a routineI know now how to get N. to go to sleep, and what time to try to start getting him to go to bed.  That has been so great! We had been getting into bed REALLY late on those busy days; he stayed up until 1:30 or 2:00 in the morning!  But in the past couple of days, we've actually managed to get him into bed right before 11:00.  I am so glad to finally be getting some rest! (And my husband is, too!)

The main thing that has helped has been establishing a consistent feeding schedule.  N. eats every two hours (give or take a little) during the day, and every four hours at night.  Also, I have learned that I need to sleep when he sleeps, so I have to put the housework off for a bitBefore, after I fed him around 6:30 or 7:00 a.m., I would go ahead and get up in order to get stuff done.  Now, I am sleeping in until around 9:30 a.m. or so in order to make up sleep from waking up in the middle of the night.  N. is taking naps in the afternoon, now, so I can do all that stuff then. (And I can blog!)  I had no idea how wonderful it would be to get into a routine!!

We also just finished up using all of the disposable diapers that we received at our baby showers and have now moved on to cloth.  My wonderful SIL let us use all of the diapers she had from our niece, and she even gave us some diapers that were completely new from her old store inventory. (She used to own a super cool baby shop that sold cloth diapers and all sorts of organic things.)  We were planning on using cloth diapers as soon as we brought him home from the hospital, but it was just easier to use disposables until N.'s circumcision healed.  And then after it healed, I figured we may as well use the rest of what we had.  They were all size 1's, and so I knew I wouldn't be able to save them for very long.  I put several in my diaper bag so that we can use disposables when we go out, but that's it.  Anyway, I'm finding that cloth diapers are very easy! We are using a brand called Kissaluvs right now, and I am loving them! I thought it might be hard to get the snaps snapped on a wriggling baby, but it's no harder than the sticky closures on the disposable diapers.  Actually, I'm finding it easier!

We bought a wipe warmer so that I could also make a batch of cloth wipes to keep ready and moist, and I made the first batch this afternoon.  I used water, tea tree oil, and Dr. Bronner's castille soap for babies.  (Note: If you decide to use Dr. Bronner's, that is great.  Just ignore all the writing on the outside.  That company is obviously confused about their spirituality, and there is a bunch of hippy-dippy stuff about their "god", not my God. I wouldn't even support the company, but the soap is really good.  And unfortunately, we can't boycott everything and every company that doesn't believe the same way we do.  Although I would if I could.) Okay, off my soapbox and back to the cloth wipes.  I poured 2 cups of water in a container, and added 1/4 cup of the castille soap and about 15 drops of tea tree oil.  Then I soaked the cloths in the solution, wrung them out, folded them in half, and placed them in the wipe warmer.  I only did 12, so I'm hoping that lasts a couple of days.  The rest of the solution I poured in a spray bottle, just in case I need a little bit more to clean my sweet baby with.  

So far, cloth diapering has been great! I did encounter one big poopy diaper that I ended up having to spray down in the toilet.  My husband made up our own diaper sprayer that attaches to our toilet with supplies from Lowe's.  (We only spent $16 on a diaper sprayer, as opposed to $35, which was the average price of one you could buy.  Maybe I'll ask him to write a guest post on how to engineer your own diaper sprayer!)  Anyway, spraying down the diaper wasn't too bad.  I was able to squeeze out all the water by gripping the front of the diaper, so I never actually had to touch the poo.  I'm sure I'll get it on me sometime, though.  I mean, even disposable diapers can't protect you completely! Sometimes there is just too much mess! ;)

To store all the dirty diapers, I  bought a diaper pail from Amazon that had an opening big enough to put cloth diapers in, and I lined it with a large wet bag.  The wet bag, the cloth wipes, the cloth diapers, and the diaper covers can all be washed together.  I figure I will probably do a load of laundry every night; at most I will only let it go a day before washing a load.  I don't want them to mold or mildew.  This is the most awesome part about being a stay-at-home mom.  I have time to do all of this!  I think it would be pretty challenging, otherwise.  But not impossible. :)

Well, it's about time N. woke up from his afternoon nap to eat.  Tonight will be my first night back at praise band practice, and I can't wait! My fingers are itching to play the keys and to see everyone!  Until next time!

 
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Friday, October 19, 2012

My Hypnobabies Birth Story: Part 2

When we got to the room, I got out of the wheelchair and got myself settled on the bed.  I was very comfortable, and my contractions were only coming at about every 10 minutes or so.  I was able to easily talk through them and I was able to sign all the paperwork that they throw at you as soon as you get in the door.  My friend, S., helped me through all of this, and I was so grateful.  They put in a heplock, attached me to the monitor, and gave me a run down of how often they would check me and how long/often I would have to be hooked up to the fetal monitor.  (I had chosen to be intermittenly monitored since I wanted the freedom to move around.)

It was about 3:30 a.m. when I was finally all settled and just waiting.  The hours seemed to go by pretty fast, but they went by in slow motion as well.  I know, it sounds like an oxymoron, but labor is a bit weird.  The reason I call this my Hypnobabies birth story is because I had been taking a home study course to try to deal with my pain naturally.  Hypnobabies is a form of childbirth hypnosis, and it helps you to learn how to relax and breathe during labor.  They teach that fear=tension+pain, and that if you can calm down and relax during each "pressure wave" (contraction is a negative word, although I never did learn to call them "pressure waves")  The Hypnobabies teacher was right! When I was able to really be calm and ignore my contractions and not be scared of them, I hardly had any pain.  I really was able to hypnotize myself into not feeling anything.  This was so different to all the nurses, my doctor, and to my husband, parents, and friend.  Here I was, completely unmedicated, and not making a sound, and the expression on my face was one of calm.  My mom took a picture of me because she was so impressed by my strength, apparently.  (I was so inside my head, I didn't even realize what was going on around me.  Imagine my surprise when I see all these pictures of me in labor!)





I tried very hard to find positions that were the most comfortable for me during labor.  I labored on the ball, I labored in the tub, I labored on the bed, I even ended up laboring on the toilet! (Which I had heard of women doing but always thought it was weird.  It's actually pretty good for getting you to dilate, that is, if your body will dilate.)  The most comfortable place for me was in the tub.  I listened to my Hypnobabies "Easy First Stage" track and just relaxed.  Those were the best moments during my whole labor.  I'm not sure why I didn't just stay in the tub the throughout my labor; but I kept getting cold, which wasn't helping my comfort level.  

The hours kept passing and passing.  I would be checked, and there wasn't hardly any progress.  It was so disappointing for everyone in the room. The room started feeling depressing, and almost what I would call dark.  This whole time that I am laboring, again unmedicated, I am trying to utilize my Hypnobabies techniques, and I am also praying like I have never prayed before.  I prayed for mercy, I prayed for grace, and I prayed that everything would be over soon and I would have my beautiful baby boy.  My labor experience was so intense, that the only thing I could do was call on God to help me.  My doctor helped us with this, too.  I am so thankful that we were able to have such a godly man as our doctor! He held my and my husband's hands and prayed with us.  This was after about 15 hours of labor.  There wasn't a dry eye in the room after he said this prayer, but it was very comforting to me. 

Finally, at 9:00, my doctor came in to check me and make an ultimatum.  If I hadn't progressed by 10:00, he believed that the baby wouldn't come out.  For that hour, I got back in the tub and prayed that I would have progress. For a solid hour, I begged God to let me be able to have this baby without a c-section and that He would just let me have my son.  It seemed like only a minute later that my husband came in and told me I needed to get out of the tub because the doctor would be coming back in soon.  I couldn't believe an hour had passed by already.  I dried off and my husband helped me back into bed, and we waited and prayed.

The doctor came in almost right at 10:00.  He checked me, and I could tell from the look on his face what was going to happen.  He gave me the saddest look, and he just shook his head.  I sighed a big, big sigh, and just said, "Ok.  Do what you have to do.  The main thing is that we are both healthy and safe."  Almost immediately they started prepping me for a c-section.  The anesthesiologist came in and did his spiel, and the whole time I just want him to shut up because I am still having contractions.  After being in labor for 21 hours, with 6 hours and 45 minutes of them being in the transition stage with the hardest contractions ever, all I wanted was the spinal block for the c-section.  I had never had surgery before, and I was really nervous.  My dad has had problems in the past from waking up in the middle of procedures, and I was so afraid that it could happen to me, too, but I didn't care about anything except the safety of my son.

Finally, around 11:00 p.m. they wheeled me into the OR.  I sat up on the table, and the anesthesioligist, who was pretty goofy, began telling me everything he was about to do.  I didn't really care or listen. My friend, S., held me up and let me lean on her while they were administering the epidural.  Like I said before, I was so grateful to her!  After they finished, they slid me back on the table and attached all the wires for the heart rate monitor and blood pressure cuff to my finger/arm.  My heart rate was crazy; I believe it went up to 180 at one point.  They had to calm me down because I was so scared; all I could think about after that was that I was going to give myself a heart attack before I ever got to see my son.  

The nurses and doctors in the OR finished doing all their prep work in record time, and then they called in my mom and my husband.  They sat behind my head while they did the c-section.  My husband said that he tried not to look at the little overhead mirror, but that it was like a wreck that you couldn't look away from.  He saw them pop our beautiful baby boy's head out, and immediately we all heard a cry.  Which was definitely the most beautiful sound in the world.  I'm crying, my husband is crying, my mom is crying, and we are just so glad that he was out! The doctor brought him over to me and held him down by my head so I could see him. It was the most amazing moment, so far, in my life.



My husband was so proud!! Fatherhood suits him very well!!
 

 After that, they stapled me up and gave my son his first bath.  My husband and mother went to take pictures and stare at him in awe.  I was so sad that I wasn't able to hold him or nurse him right then, but I knew it was only a matter of time.  Finally they were done, and they transferred me to a hospital bed.  They put my son in my arms and wheeled us to our room.  Since I was a c-section patient, we were able to get one of the bigger rooms, which was pretty awesome.  They got us all settled in, and then the nurse for that floor came in to talk to us.  She taught my husband how to change a diaper, and he did great! He actually changed all of our son's diapers while we were in the hospital.


 Finally, everyone left us and we were able to relax.  (For maybe an hour anyway, since we kept having people come in and out of the room.)  I was so relieved that my labor and birth was over and I had my son!!  I haven't mentioned a lot about my mom or my best friend, L., but it's because they were in a completely different zone than I was.  I pretty much ignored everyone and just went inside my head.  But I couldn't have done it without my awesome birth support team, and if ya'll are reading this, I thank you both for being there! And I'd like to thank my awesome and amazing husband for taking care of me during and after labor, and for being such a wonderful daddy.  I am so proud to be your wife, and our son is lucky he has you.

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My Hypnobabies Birth Story: Part 1

As I am writing this, my son has seemed to finally go to sleep.  It is 1:00 in the morning.  He has been awake since 8:30 a.m. this morning, so needless to say, I am exhausted.  I have wanted to blog about my birth story for two days now, though, so I am going to attempt to start it.  (This post may not be posted for another couple of days as my birth story is almost as long as my introduction post, but oh well.)

**Note: It is now Friday, October 19, and I am finally able to finish this post.  Apparently when you have a newborn, you don't get to do the things you want to do right away.  Who knew? ;)

On Tuesday, October 2, I had a routine doctor's appointment scheduled.  Even though my due date wasn't until October 8, I wanted to have this baby as soon as possible, as any pregnant woman at 39 weeks knows.  I went in to get checked and was pretty disappointed with the results.  Little did I know that would be the first of many times that I would have to face the same disappointment.  But I'll get to that in a minute.  My check-up was good, but my son had not been moving very much.  They decided to hook me up to a contraction/heartrate/fetal movement monitor so that they could double check that everything was normal.  They hooked me up, and immediately my boy started kicking me, as if he was trying to kick off the monitor.  I looked at the nurse and said, "I promise he wasn't moving before!" She just laughed; apparently that happens almost every time they hook someone up.  She left and said she would be back in a few minutes to check on me.  Not long after that, I started to feel my belly tighten like I'd never felt it do before.  I had started to go into early labor and I didn't know it.  I watched the contractions on the tape and saw that they were pretty regular.  But small.  The nurse came back in, checked the tape, and said, "Looks like you're having small contractions.  That's normal."  I told her I had never really felt anything like the contractions I was feeling.  She didn't seem concerned, and so she reassured me, then left the room.  She said she would be back in 10 minutes or so, but it seems that she forgot about me.  This actually ended up being fortunate, because my contractions were getting steadily stronger and more regular.  They were coming almost every 3 minutes by that point, although I wasn't experiencing any pain.  I had actually been seeing my doctor's nurse practitioner, since apparently a lot of babies were being born around this time.  (They called them "New Years Babies.")  The woman who was running the monitor finally came back in almost 25 minutes later, apologizing profusely for forgetting to come back and unhook me.  She went towards the tape, picked it up, and got a funny look on her face.  She said, "Wow, these are actually pretty big! Let me go get the nurse practitioner." My mom was in the room with me, and we both looked at each other in excitement.  I was thinking that this might just be the day I was going to have my baby and so did she!

The nurse practitioner came in and looked at my tape.  She tore it off the machine and said, "I have to go find your doctor!"  She ran off walking the halls in search of him.  She never did find him because he was actually at the hospital helping someone else deliver.  She asked me if I felt any pain, and when I said no, she said to just go home and wait it out and to come back when I felt any painShe didn't think I wanted to go to the hospital at that point, and she was right.

Mom and I left and went to get lunch and walk around the Whole Foods store.  I was so excited; I called my husband and my dad to let them know that it may not be long till we would have a new baby.  My parents lived 20 minutes closer to the hospital than we did, so I decided that I would stay there until the baby came.  I knew it couldn't be too long.  My husband came over as soon as he got off work, and we all sat around just waiting.  My mom and I took a nice long walk up and down the hilly parts of her neighborhood, and then we went back home to wait.  When 10:00 pm rolled around, I sent my husband home to go to bed.  He has a job where he drives a work truck, and he had to park it back at our house.  We knew that it could be hours yet till I went into active labor, and he may have needed to go to work to wait for my call.


We all went to bed around 10:30 pm, pretty much right after my husband left.  I had brought our dog over to my parents house to stay, just in case I went into labor, and I'm really glad I did. The next morning at 1:40 am, I was woken up by a really painful contraction.  I felt a "pop!" way down low and felt like I needed to go to the bathroom.  As soon as I was finished in the bathroom, I got up and my water broke.  Since this was my first pregnancy, I was in a bit of shock.  I got myself together, then went into my parents room.  It was very odd to go in there and say, "Hey! Wake up! My water broke!," because sleeping over at their house by myself had made me feel almost like a child again.  And here I was, their child, having my own child.  It was a bit strange.  The next thing I did was call my husband and text my best friend, L.  My husband was groggy on the phone, but I could tell he was excited.  So was my friend.  I told her she didn't have to come up to the hospital with us since it was the middle of the night and she had her own children to take care of, but she wanted to come anyway.  I am so grateful to her that she did.  She was a lot of support that day, not just for me, but for my family as well.

While I was waiting on my husband to arrive, I showered and put on a little powder, blush, and mascara.  After all, I didn't want my baby to see me looking like a hag! Oh how I didn't know what I would and wouldn't care about in the near future.  My husband finally got to my parents' house, and we loaded up and drove off to the hospital.  The hospitals' outside signage was horrible, and we didn't know how to get in! Gates were locked and there weren't any directions on which gate was open until we got to the last one.  My husband was very irritated, and I had to calm him down.  We finally found the maternity parking, got all our stuff, and walked down the breezeway to the maternity ward.  Now, the breezeway ended up being about 20 miles long.  Ok, I exaggerate, but seriously, it was a LONG way for a pregnant woman in labor to walk.  

We got to the front desk of the hospital, and they sent me back to L&D to check in.  When I got to the desk, there was a woman there who was aloof and unhelpful.  I was hoping that wasn't a foreshadowing of the kind of staff that I would be encountering for my birth. (It wasn't!) We actually had a friend from church who was starting her first night shift that night, and I had jokingly commented on her Facebook status saying that we might come see her that night.  And we did!  I asked for her to see if she was available, and miraculously, she was! I was so excited that she was able to be our nurse! 

The next thing they made me do after checking in was to go into triage so they could verify that my water had actually broken.  They gave me a gown and sent me to the bathroom, and then checked me out with a weird little strip of paper.  It obviously was my water that had broken, so they then put me in a wheelchair and put me in a labor room with a hot tub
 

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